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Using Social Media Responsibly

With the advent of new generation smart phones literally providing  the apps on our fingertips, in discriminatory use of social media has become commonplace. The amount of time people are spending glued to their screens is alarming. According to a recent article in Economics Time Mobile addiction has shot up nearly 75%-100% in last one year alone and the problem is only going to…

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Demand Dealing

Ever known someone who will try every trick in their books to get their demands met. Imagine living with one. Yes I am talking about our persevering (read pestering) kids who will not stop at anything to get what they want. And many a times we give in to their antics thus reinforcing the very behaviour we don’t want to…

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Why define Success for me?

Is there a standard definition of success? Who sets these standards? Is there a cutoff like board exams? Are parameters of success same for everyone? Does everyone have the same purpose? Should someone else define the aim of my life? Is it necessary that my purpose should remain stoic irrespective of my circumstances? Tough questions that we need to answer…

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Education for…….Marks

In March of 2018 NCERT invited suggestions for reducing the burden of school curriculum. I was thrilled by the initiative and proceeded to give my inputs. My enthusiasm soon deflated as I found out it was asking for specific information on chapters to cut down on quantity. I wondered isn’t the burden because of pressures and expectations around it. Will…

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My Marks: My Destiny?

With the announcement of Board results, mothers celebrating the success of their kids on facebook and a post by a mother celebrating the 60% of her son going viral, suddenly everybody is discussing marks and education system. Newspaper are carrying articles about how are education is flawed and social media has erupted with similar posts. It’s time to make sure…

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Is Your Attention Damaging Your Child?

Attention is a very powerful positive reinforcer. “What you pay attention to grows“. It’s operant conditioning. So if you are paying more attention to your child’s annoying behaviours while not praising the good ones, more such behaviours are going to manifest. Let’s understand this concept with the help of a simple example. Case Scenario: Picture this. A child playing by…

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Right way of using rewards

William James, American psychologist and philosopher made a very apt observation “The deepest principle of human nature is a craving to be appreciated.” Appreciation makes our heart sing, it signals we have been noticed and our efforts recognized.  Shouldn’t we use more of it instead of guiding our kids with fear based consequences? Now that we have learnt about setting…

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The Art of Rule Setting

Leaders and Organizations are taking classes for Goal Setting but it really begins at home. Gift your family this important Life Skill this New Year. Though this article has been written from a standpoint of problem behaviour the principles equally apply to positive behaviours with reward as a consequence. Setting and implementing the rules is a hard task but its…

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