Behavioual Issues

Sibling Rivalry

Competition for the same objective or for superiority in the same field is how Oxford dictionary defines rivalry. So siblings may want the same toys, similar privileges and vie each other for them. But most of all what each one of them wants is love and appreciation from parents. Sibling rivalry can be healthy too. How much ever it might be driving…

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Taming Temper Tantrums

As parents we all have had to face meltdowns or temper tantrums of our children. We do not want to be caught in the midst of it as most often than not it’s very disconcerting. Most of us either try to deal it with a heavy hand, cold shoulder or give in. We know neither of these are healthy responses…

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Demand Dealing

Ever known someone who will try every trick in their books to get their demands met. Imagine living with one. Yes I am talking about our persevering (read pestering) kids who will not stop at anything to get what they want. And many a times we give in to their antics thus reinforcing the very behaviour we don’t want to…

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Is Your Attention Damaging Your Child?

Attention is a very powerful positive reinforcer. “What you pay attention to grows“. It’s operant conditioning. So if you are paying more attention to your child’s annoying behaviours while not praising the good ones, more such behaviours are going to manifest. Let’s understand this concept with the help of a simple example. Case Scenario: Picture this. A child playing by…

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Right Way Of Using Rewards

William James, American psychologist and philosopher made a very apt observation “The deepest principle of human nature is a craving to be appreciated.” Appreciation makes our heart sing, it signals we have been noticed and our efforts recognized.  Shouldn’t we use more of it instead of guiding our kids with fear based consequences? Now that we have learnt about setting…

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The Art of Rule Setting

Leaders and Organizations are taking classes for Goal Setting but it really begins at home. Gift your family this important Life Skill this New Year. Though this article has been written from a standpoint of problem behaviour the principles equally apply to positive behaviours with reward as a consequence. Setting and implementing the rules is a hard task but its…

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Rules for Effective Use of Punishment

Punishment is the dreaded word dropped like a bomb on the child by teachers, elders alike. But wait what are we punishing the child for. Are our punishments working? Are they helping the child to evolve or making them pretentious? Replace punishment with consequences: For starters try using the word consequences. Punishment puts the onus on the one meting it…

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